April 2004


There are so many things that we worry and dwell over day after day. Constantly, we find ourselves analyzing everything, down to the tiniest detail, in hopes that we will find a clue, hint, or sign to point us in the right direction (well, I know I do). We feel stalled, like we’ve reached the end of the road. “Where do I go from here? Is this a dead end? There’s no where to go …except back the way I came. I must have done something wrong.”But did you ever consider this? Maybe it’s not that the road on which you’re traveling is a dead end…it’s just that God hasn’t finished laying the pavement! Everything is planned and ready, but there’s no need for us to get ahead of ourselves. God knows exactly where each of us is headed, but He’s also in control of *when* we get there.

So what exactly are we supposed to do when we reach the end of our incomplete road? Simple. Nothing… That is, just be patient and keep doing what you’ve been doing. It got you this far! Right?

“Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him.” Psalm 37:7. It’s not very easy for us to follow David’s advice (at least not for me), but we all know he’s right.

God’s got a plan. He is preparing a road for each and everyone of us, but He’s going to build it at *His* own pace. Sometimes, all we have to do is wait. I know, I know…that’s much easier said than done.

What happened to the days when someone’s word actually meant something? Am I the only one tired of people constantly saying one thing, but doing another? I know, I know…we’re ALL guilty of that, but it just gets out of hand sometimes.Jesus said it best in Matthew 5, “Simply let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one.” We shouldn’t have to ‘promise’ anything to ourselves, to each other, or to God…our words alone should be good enough to guarantee that we will follow through.

Unfortunately, we live in a very untrusting world. Most agreements have to be written explicitly before they can be legally binding; and sadly, this has become an excuse for many to go against their own words. I am totally aware that we all make dumb mistakes and are hypocrites at some point in our lives, but when you’ve made a particular decision several times and find yourself going against it repeatedly…maybe you should just keep your mouth shut.

Many of us make ‘promises’ to ourselves on a daily basis, telling OURSELVES what we plan to do and not do about certain things. In this situation, only YOU are responsible for holding YOURSELF accountable for these ‘promises;’ if you break them, no one knows but you and God …But the moment you express these decisions to someone else, you’ve created an expectation in their mind.

The way we expect people to behave has a lot of basis on what we have heard them say. When one’s words and actions contradict one another, this just creates disappointment and distrust…especially when it happens on a regular basis with the exact same words and the exact same actions.

With so many of us behaving in this way, it’s NO WONDER that we ALL have to add “I promise” to our statements in order to get others to actually believe what we have said. Stupid hypocrites… Stupid US!